Money has no memory.

Money has no memory. Experience has. You will never know what was the total cost of your education, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalization bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother's life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won't remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has.

Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn't know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn't enough and you still had reasons to smile. Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.

The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…
The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your sibling gave you…
The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage speech…

The first day in college…the first day at work…the first adventure…
And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…

No denying that anything that's material costs money; still the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience will never be.

So, what if it's economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents & grand parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn't cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap. Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.

Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don't want you to look back and realise you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.

Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have; or just a very insignificant bit.

What Life Means Today

What Life Means Today

Earlier, life meant:
A winter evening, Four friends, Mild rain.., Four bikes.

Earlier, life meant:
100 bucks for petrol, Two rusty old bikes.., An open road.

Earlier, life meant:
Maggi noodles, drinking juice at 3.25 a.m.., Sharing food.. and clothes.

Earlier, life meant:
Last minute exam preparations, One night, One book.., 2 duffers.

Earlier, life meant:
Canteen food, bus rides, movie halls, cutting lectures :)

Today life means:
Old friends, Separate cities, Separate lives.,
And endless efforts to earn money & get peace.

Today what you are looking in life.., Is probably that you lost in your way here.
Remember old friends, old memories you shared, Reconnect, rejoice!

Divorce :( :( :(

I am single, let alone divorced. But I happen to be one to those incredibly stubborn people who actually expects people to keep their promises and vows of marriage...silly me. I was born not to trust people and I guess I had a slip of one of my cerebral nerves or something. Don't get me wrong...my ex happens to be a sweet loving creatures on the face of the earth. But something wasn't clicking between the two of us. She's the type that needs someone in her life to complete her and give her a reason for being here. I am incredibly picky and difficult.

Today i was talking with one of my very good friend, and she mentioned that her marriage was in a trouble. GOSH!!! i was shocked to hear this, coz i know both of them well and they make a good couple. Last time when i visited home i also visited them and saw their sweet adorable baby... My mind was thinking faster than usual and i was having difficulty in expressing myself. After office i sat down and was thinking What makes a good spouse? true being a good provider might have been the end all to be all at one time, but what about love, communication, partnerships,friendship , emotional side of things??

In the order of importance to me:

- SENSE OF HUMOR - it's going to be a long 50+ years if you both don't have this, then its gonna be boring :(
- maturity - mature enough to have a realistic picture of marriage, day to day life, and to understand that people do not have the RIGHT to change their partner to suit them.
- commitment - without this everything else is worthless. To me this is the glue that holds everything else together.
- trust and honesty - for this to exist both people must feel SAFE being honest. Secure in the knowledge that their comments won't be ridiculed or used against them at a later date.
- friendship - if you aren't friends throughout your marriage what do you have to fall back on when times are hard or when children leave home?
- communication or someone who will attempt to communicate (communication skills are LEARNED) - again both parties MUST feel safe in communicating with the other.
- a basic kindness and consideration toward each other
- a willingness to work on problems - there will always be problems in life and if the two people can't work them out they are pretty well doomed.
- desire to create the best life for both - this doesn't mean the most financially secure life, but the best emotionally secure life possible for both.

I didn't list sex because I believe if you have a spouse who encompasses the above you'll have someone who is responsive, considerate, and desires to please. Everything else you can learn or be taught ;-)

I also didn't list being a good provider because I think it's a worthless consideration. I know one woman who wouldn't date anyone who didn't have a new car and an upper income job. She married him and now about 30 years later he lost that job after they were first married and she still works. Financial security is too nebulous.

Nurture the marriage you've got

Keep doing whatever it was that got you together. Develop new shared interests to supplant/replace old ones. Go on dates, even if you have to schedule them 6 months in advance. Try that new sex position. Whatever it takes. Flowers. Frequent oral sex. Doing the damn dishes - together, with some light banter thrown in. Do whatever it takes to keep marriage together... don't let it fall

I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive