Some of my friends might think i am crazy to write what i am about to write. However i write what i want to write, coz this is what i feel and this is what i want to express, and if you want to judge me then, their is no stopping you..
The most auspicious month of Kartik is just around the corner, and for the first time i will be celebrating it without my Jaganatha or temple deities. I have strong attraction towards deity worship and with this background its very difficult to celebrate Kartik without the deities. You have to be a pujari to understand what i am talking about, its very difficult to express what i am feeling now, coz its not a common sentiment / feeling. I miss Radha Madhava temple in Manila, its a small house, and its such a nice feeling to be with Radha Madhava. Its a small temple, and its common to have have 5-10 visitors entire day, so the whole day can be spend looking at Radha Madhava and listening to the soft kirtan. Am not sure how i will celebrate Kartika without my Jaganatha, they are still in Manila temple. Wish i can move back to manila or india sooner than i think....
Sunday, September 27, 2009
Monday, September 21, 2009
Lonely ??
Today as i sit in my bed and look at things, i feel a bit lonely. Yes, you are right, i said it, i feel a bit lonely. Here i am lying in bed, with bodyache and fever and their is noone physically with me. I know Krsna (god) is with me, but at this stage i might have appreciated someone physically around me, someone with whom i can talk and share my feelings.
As i think more about this, i feel more and more lonely and the holy name is the only hope, i am in an alien country, with very few friends and most of them fine me unusual coz of my life style (vegetarian, no alcohol, no girlfriends, no night life), they feel that i live a very disciplined life. One of my friend suggest that sometimes its also a good to be disciplined to be undisciplined, i tried it, went out with friends till 2 am, however it dint help and i was feeling a bit out of place and uncomfortable. Their is something that i was holding back.
Isnt it true that in many countries, modern culture emphasizes the individual person, and not the group or family. There is often pressure to be 'self-contained'. Many more young people like me live alone, often away from family or friends because of work or college. The pressures of life may not leave enough time to make good relationships. To top this up, we try and take refuge in media (TV, books, internet, flims) only to find that they keep telling us that the only meaningful relationship is sexual and or romantic. When we dont have these relationships in our life we feel left out and or unaccepted. And if at all we find such a relationship, we have lot of expectations from it, so much so that when the relationship fails to workout, we feel as if life has come to stand still, and we keep punishing yourself for the failure. I am not a typical SHY person, i have friends, and I go out with them for parties, however somewhere inside me I know that I keep people at arms length.
What exactly is loneliness? It is a FEELING that intimacy, understanding, friendship, and acceptance are missing from one's life. It is a FEELING of isolation or separation from others, a FEELING of being all alone. We need to realize that loneliness is nothing more than a feeling. After all, you are not your arms or legs, for they are just parts of your body. Similarly, you are not your feelings, which are just parts of your psyche.Words are a lot like cars. Both are loaded with power. Cars are used to drive home. And words are used to drive home a point. Words and cars are very useful, but when used improperly, they can harm us. There are many poor drivers and poor thinkers because we learn about cars and words from unqualified instructors, such as our parents or friends. Now, let's get to the point. Did you ever say any of the following to yourself or others? "I am lonely." "I am sad." "I am angry." If you did, that is a misuse of language that leads to harmful effects.
Here is something to think about. The words we use imprison us or set us free. For example, if I were to say, "I AM lonely." That is just like saying, "I AM white." or "I AM a male." You see, there's nothing I can do about being white or a male. There is nothing I can do to change what I AM. So, when I say, "I AM lonely," the implication is that I cannot change. In other words, I use words to imprison myself with false beliefs.
However, when I acknowledge that loneliness is a feeling by saying, "I FEEL lonely," I open the door of my prison cell because feelings can and do change. Of course, as long as I continue to say, "I feel lonely. I feel lonely. I feel lonely," nothing will change. For although I opened the door, I have chosen to remain in the cell. To completely set myself free I have to take that extra step by saying, "I feel lonely, SO I'M GOING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT."
Loneliness is much more than an inconvenience. Left unchecked, it can be a precursor to the solitary confinement of drug and other addictions. For the pain of loneliness may cause one to look for solace in drugs, alcohol, sex, or gambling. There is also the danger of loneliness developing into anxiety and depression. One can become completely immobilized by feelings of self-pity and helplessness. Also, one may try to mask pain by oversleeping or putting in long hours at the office. Finally, the stress imposed by loneliness leads to a weakened immune system, heart disease, and other physical ailments. The moral is clear. If we're suffering from loneliness, it's time to decide to do something about it.
All right, I feel lonely and want to do something about it, so what must I do? Start by understanding a simple law of life which can help solve almost any problem. That law is: You have to give away what you wish to receive. Our actions are balls that bounce back to us. A corollary of that law is: Don't give others what you don't want to receive. If I punch someone, they will punch me back. If I hug someone, they will hug me back. It's as simple as that. And that is the wisdom contained in the teaching, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
The strongest trees are those that grow alone. The greatest dreams are those conceived alone. God can speak to you only when you are alone. Your purpose and life's meaning will be revealed to you only when you are alone. Yes, solitude is not the hovel of a recluse, but the mansion of a master. It is a place of joy. Yet, don't retreat to it to such an extent that you neglect others and deny yourself the blessings of friendship and companionship.
There's nothing questionable about the power of questions. If you're feeling lonely and don't know why, that's because you haven't been asking questions. Take an inventory of your behavior. Are you a show-off? Domineering? Moody? A complainer? A gossiper? Unreliable? Nosy? Short-tempered? A taker that doesn't know how to give? Do you build walls instead of bridges? Would you want to be friends with someone like you? Questions provoke thought and point to solutions. How can you take corrective action unless you ask yourself what you are doing wrong? If you are still mired in loneliness, is that because you're waiting to be rescued? (Don't hold your breath because help isn't on the way.) If you need a hand, you'll find it at the end of your own arm. There are lots you can do such as join a support group to master people skills. Learning about self-esteem, assertiveness, and how to overcome shyness and win friends can be a great deal of fun and put an end to your loneliness for good. Don't deprive others of the blessing of knowing you; be a friend!
As i think more about this, i feel more and more lonely and the holy name is the only hope, i am in an alien country, with very few friends and most of them fine me unusual coz of my life style (vegetarian, no alcohol, no girlfriends, no night life), they feel that i live a very disciplined life. One of my friend suggest that sometimes its also a good to be disciplined to be undisciplined, i tried it, went out with friends till 2 am, however it dint help and i was feeling a bit out of place and uncomfortable. Their is something that i was holding back.
Isnt it true that in many countries, modern culture emphasizes the individual person, and not the group or family. There is often pressure to be 'self-contained'. Many more young people like me live alone, often away from family or friends because of work or college. The pressures of life may not leave enough time to make good relationships. To top this up, we try and take refuge in media (TV, books, internet, flims) only to find that they keep telling us that the only meaningful relationship is sexual and or romantic. When we dont have these relationships in our life we feel left out and or unaccepted. And if at all we find such a relationship, we have lot of expectations from it, so much so that when the relationship fails to workout, we feel as if life has come to stand still, and we keep punishing yourself for the failure. I am not a typical SHY person, i have friends, and I go out with them for parties, however somewhere inside me I know that I keep people at arms length.
What exactly is loneliness? It is a FEELING that intimacy, understanding, friendship, and acceptance are missing from one's life. It is a FEELING of isolation or separation from others, a FEELING of being all alone. We need to realize that loneliness is nothing more than a feeling. After all, you are not your arms or legs, for they are just parts of your body. Similarly, you are not your feelings, which are just parts of your psyche.Words are a lot like cars. Both are loaded with power. Cars are used to drive home. And words are used to drive home a point. Words and cars are very useful, but when used improperly, they can harm us. There are many poor drivers and poor thinkers because we learn about cars and words from unqualified instructors, such as our parents or friends. Now, let's get to the point. Did you ever say any of the following to yourself or others? "I am lonely." "I am sad." "I am angry." If you did, that is a misuse of language that leads to harmful effects.
Here is something to think about. The words we use imprison us or set us free. For example, if I were to say, "I AM lonely." That is just like saying, "I AM white." or "I AM a male." You see, there's nothing I can do about being white or a male. There is nothing I can do to change what I AM. So, when I say, "I AM lonely," the implication is that I cannot change. In other words, I use words to imprison myself with false beliefs.
However, when I acknowledge that loneliness is a feeling by saying, "I FEEL lonely," I open the door of my prison cell because feelings can and do change. Of course, as long as I continue to say, "I feel lonely. I feel lonely. I feel lonely," nothing will change. For although I opened the door, I have chosen to remain in the cell. To completely set myself free I have to take that extra step by saying, "I feel lonely, SO I'M GOING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT."
Loneliness is much more than an inconvenience. Left unchecked, it can be a precursor to the solitary confinement of drug and other addictions. For the pain of loneliness may cause one to look for solace in drugs, alcohol, sex, or gambling. There is also the danger of loneliness developing into anxiety and depression. One can become completely immobilized by feelings of self-pity and helplessness. Also, one may try to mask pain by oversleeping or putting in long hours at the office. Finally, the stress imposed by loneliness leads to a weakened immune system, heart disease, and other physical ailments. The moral is clear. If we're suffering from loneliness, it's time to decide to do something about it.
All right, I feel lonely and want to do something about it, so what must I do? Start by understanding a simple law of life which can help solve almost any problem. That law is: You have to give away what you wish to receive. Our actions are balls that bounce back to us. A corollary of that law is: Don't give others what you don't want to receive. If I punch someone, they will punch me back. If I hug someone, they will hug me back. It's as simple as that. And that is the wisdom contained in the teaching, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
The strongest trees are those that grow alone. The greatest dreams are those conceived alone. God can speak to you only when you are alone. Your purpose and life's meaning will be revealed to you only when you are alone. Yes, solitude is not the hovel of a recluse, but the mansion of a master. It is a place of joy. Yet, don't retreat to it to such an extent that you neglect others and deny yourself the blessings of friendship and companionship.
There's nothing questionable about the power of questions. If you're feeling lonely and don't know why, that's because you haven't been asking questions. Take an inventory of your behavior. Are you a show-off? Domineering? Moody? A complainer? A gossiper? Unreliable? Nosy? Short-tempered? A taker that doesn't know how to give? Do you build walls instead of bridges? Would you want to be friends with someone like you? Questions provoke thought and point to solutions. How can you take corrective action unless you ask yourself what you are doing wrong? If you are still mired in loneliness, is that because you're waiting to be rescued? (Don't hold your breath because help isn't on the way.) If you need a hand, you'll find it at the end of your own arm. There are lots you can do such as join a support group to master people skills. Learning about self-esteem, assertiveness, and how to overcome shyness and win friends can be a great deal of fun and put an end to your loneliness for good. Don't deprive others of the blessing of knowing you; be a friend!
Sunday, September 20, 2009
A good write up on astrology...
Why believe in astrology?
Why should we believe in astrology?
It’s good to ask this question. Pythagoras, the famous mathematician, gave us numerology. John Kepler, the great astronomer and mathematician, also made many discoveries in astrology and said: “A most unfailing experience of the excitement of sub-lunary natures by the conjunctions and aspects of the planets has instructed and compelled my unwilling belief.” Can these great mathematicians and astronomers be wrong in one belief and right in another? Extract something positive from astrology if you have a belief and if not, do research before you decide to reject it.
Astrology is the science of stars, and is based on the belief that the position of the planets and stars in the sky influences human life. Like in any other profession, the accuracy of the task depends on the person performing it. The failure of predictions could be because they are wrongly interpreted by astrologers, or incomplete and wrong birth information (date and time) given. After all, predictions are based on mathematical calculations of transiting planets.
Is the daily horoscope equally true for everybody of that sun sign?
It’s generally true, but for an accurate picture, here's what you should do. If you're aware of your ascendant (lagna), read that along with your sun sign. This means that if your sun sign is Libra and your ascendant is Cancer, read the forecast for both.
How can the lines on our palm predict the future?
The lines on our palm are the imprint of our destiny as charted by our past and present karma. If one wants happiness and prosperity, one must do good to others. By deceiving others, we only hurt ourselves. I can say with great conviction that these lines consistently reveal the truth. I have a science background and it was palmistry and its accurate predictions that made me explore the occult sciences. For instance, a break in the fate line signifies a career setback and this can be tested on any hand. The main lines on a palm don't change, from the time we're born, but God does give us choices on the crossroads of life. For example, our words and actions have huge power. Kind words bring positive reactions from the universe but harsh and cruel words bring sorrow. Astrology or palmistry is based on the law of karma. Perhaps, that’s why God has written our destiny in our palm — the instrument of karma.
How can planetary positions and energies affect our lives?
There is an amazing synchronisation in this u n ive r s e. Everything is perfectly timed, but due to our
karmic amnesia, our
conscious minds are not
aware of it. For instance, the death of Andhra Pradesh chief minister YSR Reddy comes during a time when inimical planets Sun and Saturn are at loggerheads. This period has claimed several luminaries in the past, like India’s first prime minister Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru in May, 1964 and prime ministers Indira Gandhi and Lal Bahadur Shastri in October, 1984 and January, 1966 respectively. While God has given us the power to improve upon our destiny, it’s the master plan that inspires life events. It is possible to change the course of destiny, but only through our karmas. Astrology is based on the principle of karma. Probably that is why the path of good karma is more difficult to follow!
Does the time you are born affect your destiny? Why are the lives of two people born at the same time not similar?
The planetary positions at the time of birth lay our destiny path, where and when we are likely to meet challenges, joys and happiness. Our birth time is actually the starting time of our journey on this earth, and is therefore important. The time of events (mahuratha) for the start of a journey, marriage, change of house or even a launch of a satellite becomes the ‘birth time’ of that event. Planetary positions at the time of birth will reflect its course, progress, success or failure. Even Ved Vyas, the author of the ancient Vedas, was born at a time predetermined as auspicious by his father, the sage Parashar. However, even twins don’t have identical lives, simply because no two people have the same lines on their palms.
Are there some astrology streams that are more effective than others?
All astrological streams are self-sufficient and complete. Being older than history, astrology has suffered repeated attacks. Some ancient scriptures have been destroyed or taken away by invaders, but it is for the new generation of astrologers to try and fill these gaps.
Why believe in astrology?
Why should we believe in astrology?
It’s good to ask this question. Pythagoras, the famous mathematician, gave us numerology. John Kepler, the great astronomer and mathematician, also made many discoveries in astrology and said: “A most unfailing experience of the excitement of sub-lunary natures by the conjunctions and aspects of the planets has instructed and compelled my unwilling belief.” Can these great mathematicians and astronomers be wrong in one belief and right in another? Extract something positive from astrology if you have a belief and if not, do research before you decide to reject it.
Astrology is the science of stars, and is based on the belief that the position of the planets and stars in the sky influences human life. Like in any other profession, the accuracy of the task depends on the person performing it. The failure of predictions could be because they are wrongly interpreted by astrologers, or incomplete and wrong birth information (date and time) given. After all, predictions are based on mathematical calculations of transiting planets.
Is the daily horoscope equally true for everybody of that sun sign?
It’s generally true, but for an accurate picture, here's what you should do. If you're aware of your ascendant (lagna), read that along with your sun sign. This means that if your sun sign is Libra and your ascendant is Cancer, read the forecast for both.
How can the lines on our palm predict the future?
The lines on our palm are the imprint of our destiny as charted by our past and present karma. If one wants happiness and prosperity, one must do good to others. By deceiving others, we only hurt ourselves. I can say with great conviction that these lines consistently reveal the truth. I have a science background and it was palmistry and its accurate predictions that made me explore the occult sciences. For instance, a break in the fate line signifies a career setback and this can be tested on any hand. The main lines on a palm don't change, from the time we're born, but God does give us choices on the crossroads of life. For example, our words and actions have huge power. Kind words bring positive reactions from the universe but harsh and cruel words bring sorrow. Astrology or palmistry is based on the law of karma. Perhaps, that’s why God has written our destiny in our palm — the instrument of karma.
How can planetary positions and energies affect our lives?
There is an amazing synchronisation in this u n ive r s e. Everything is perfectly timed, but due to our
karmic amnesia, our
conscious minds are not
aware of it. For instance, the death of Andhra Pradesh chief minister YSR Reddy comes during a time when inimical planets Sun and Saturn are at loggerheads. This period has claimed several luminaries in the past, like India’s first prime minister Pandit Jawaharlal Nehru in May, 1964 and prime ministers Indira Gandhi and Lal Bahadur Shastri in October, 1984 and January, 1966 respectively. While God has given us the power to improve upon our destiny, it’s the master plan that inspires life events. It is possible to change the course of destiny, but only through our karmas. Astrology is based on the principle of karma. Probably that is why the path of good karma is more difficult to follow!
Does the time you are born affect your destiny? Why are the lives of two people born at the same time not similar?
The planetary positions at the time of birth lay our destiny path, where and when we are likely to meet challenges, joys and happiness. Our birth time is actually the starting time of our journey on this earth, and is therefore important. The time of events (mahuratha) for the start of a journey, marriage, change of house or even a launch of a satellite becomes the ‘birth time’ of that event. Planetary positions at the time of birth will reflect its course, progress, success or failure. Even Ved Vyas, the author of the ancient Vedas, was born at a time predetermined as auspicious by his father, the sage Parashar. However, even twins don’t have identical lives, simply because no two people have the same lines on their palms.
Are there some astrology streams that are more effective than others?
All astrological streams are self-sufficient and complete. Being older than history, astrology has suffered repeated attacks. Some ancient scriptures have been destroyed or taken away by invaders, but it is for the new generation of astrologers to try and fill these gaps.
Friday, September 11, 2009
Write more often...
Its been a while since i wrote and at times i feel brain dead coz of this.. i am a person who like to be interlecually challenged, thats what keeps me motivated and energised.
I want to start witting more, i want to express my self thru my words, touch the soul thru witting.
Hopefully will start writing on regular intervals.
I came across this nice piece.. thought of sharing it with you:
If God wanted us to take our own life, he would have provided a power off button. He didn't, so have faith and let his plan for you unfold. Because no matter how tough life gets and how much it hurts, if street dogs don't give up, there is no reason why we, the smart species, should. Makes sense right
I want to start witting more, i want to express my self thru my words, touch the soul thru witting.
Hopefully will start writing on regular intervals.
I came across this nice piece.. thought of sharing it with you:
If God wanted us to take our own life, he would have provided a power off button. He didn't, so have faith and let his plan for you unfold. Because no matter how tough life gets and how much it hurts, if street dogs don't give up, there is no reason why we, the smart species, should. Makes sense right
Monday, July 27, 2009
Let it go.....
Its been quite a while since my last post, lot of things have happened in vietnam and i have been busy like a bee. I hate it this way, coz its like working tooooooo hard and the results are not their, i believe that life is like cricket, we have to practice daily, and also we should know how to hit the ball with the right balance of strength and timing. Its a combination of strength and timing that separates the good players from the ordinary. Currently we are all trying to work hard, the timing needs to improve so that we will get proper results.
I came across this nice piece and thought of sharing it with you:
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people
can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't
want you to try to talk another person into staying
with you, loving you, calling you, caring about
you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them
walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that
left.
The bible said that, they came out from us that it
might be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would
have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to
you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't
make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it
just means that their part in the story is over And
you've got to know when people's part in your
story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise
the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell
you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's
the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's
not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I
know whatever God means for me to have He'll
give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I
don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't
belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back,
and see your worth.....
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ........
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil
and revenge......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or
addiction.....
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets
your needs or talents
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel
better......
LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take
you to a new level in Him......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't
even try to help themselves.....
LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself and God is saying "take
your hands off of it," then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for AUGUST 2009!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then .
LET IT GO!!!
I came across this nice piece and thought of sharing it with you:
There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this! When people
can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't
want you to try to talk another person into staying
with you, loving you, calling you, caring about
you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them
walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that
left.
The bible said that, they came out from us that it
might be made manifest that they were not for us.
For had they been of us, no doubt they would
have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to
you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't
make them stay.
Let them go.
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it
just means that their part in the story is over And
you've got to know when people's part in your
story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise
the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell
you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's
the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's
not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I
know whatever God means for me to have He'll
give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I
don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't
belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ......
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back,
and see your worth.....
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ........
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil
and revenge......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or
addiction.....
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets
your needs or talents
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel
better......
LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take
you to a new level in Him......
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship.......
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't
even try to help themselves.....
LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed .........
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself and God is saying "take
your hands off of it," then you need to......
LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for AUGUST 2009!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then .
LET IT GO!!!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Interesting article in TOI :) zzzzzzzzzzzz
WON’T BE CAUGHT NAPPING
To solve a problem, just grab 40 winks
London: Got a problem? Fret not. Just stay calm and take a snooze – you will be able to overcome it, say researchers.
A new study has revealed that sleeping on a problem and even dreaming about it could really help in overcoming the obstacle as a nap improves one’s powers of creativity, the Daily Telegraph reported.
An international team, led by Prof Sara Mednick of the University of California, has found that people are able to think more laterally and quickly after a snooze and that if they dream, the ability is even more enhanced.
“We found that for creative problems that you have already been working on, the passage of time is enough to find solutions. However, for new problems, only Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep enhances creativity,” she said. The team has based their findings on the analysis of an
experiment, involving 77 young adults who were given a number of word associated creative tasks in the morning.
The participants were shown multiple groups of three words (such as: cookie, heart, sixteen) and asked to find a fourth word that can be associated to all three words (like sweet).
Later in the day, after some were allowed a nap – and monitored using brain scans to see what kind of sleep they entered – they were given the same and new tasks. For the same tasks, the passage of time and sleep allowed them to “incubate” their thoughts and come up with better and more varied solutions.
However for new tasks, those that entered REM sleep improved by almost 40% over their morning performances, according to the findings in ‘Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences’. PTI
To solve a problem, just grab 40 winks
London: Got a problem? Fret not. Just stay calm and take a snooze – you will be able to overcome it, say researchers.
A new study has revealed that sleeping on a problem and even dreaming about it could really help in overcoming the obstacle as a nap improves one’s powers of creativity, the Daily Telegraph reported.
An international team, led by Prof Sara Mednick of the University of California, has found that people are able to think more laterally and quickly after a snooze and that if they dream, the ability is even more enhanced.
“We found that for creative problems that you have already been working on, the passage of time is enough to find solutions. However, for new problems, only Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep enhances creativity,” she said. The team has based their findings on the analysis of an
experiment, involving 77 young adults who were given a number of word associated creative tasks in the morning.
The participants were shown multiple groups of three words (such as: cookie, heart, sixteen) and asked to find a fourth word that can be associated to all three words (like sweet).
Later in the day, after some were allowed a nap – and monitored using brain scans to see what kind of sleep they entered – they were given the same and new tasks. For the same tasks, the passage of time and sleep allowed them to “incubate” their thoughts and come up with better and more varied solutions.
However for new tasks, those that entered REM sleep improved by almost 40% over their morning performances, according to the findings in ‘Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences’. PTI
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Leaving Manila.... its like leaving a part of my heart
Last couple of days have been very heavy ones, coz about 10 days ago my company's ceo called me to inform that very soon we will be starting operations in Ho Chi Minh city ( Saigaon). This triggered mix feelings, was feeling excited as I will get experience in starting up operations from ground up, and morose as I will have to live away from my Radha Madhav's loving & caring family :( however I dint have a choice and had to take up this assignment. I am sure its gonna be highly challenging and adventurous affair.
Last weekend were very heavy as I was constantly thinking of my imminent separation from my loving friends ( most of them have become a part of my tight bonded Radha Madhav's family). Last entire week the weather was bright and sunny, however on weekends the gods above shared my feelings and they were also crying, all through out the weekend we had heavy rains.
Monday was a beautiful sunny day and the temperature was quite pleasant. I dint go to office as I had to take care of some personal stuff and banking . Radha Madhav were wearing beautiful maroon colored dress, and as always were looking amazingly sweet and merciful, today I dint complain or fight with them, I told them that I am ready to go where ever they want to take and am ready to do whatever they want me to do, I prayed that may The queen of Vrindana Sri Radha guide me so that I can fearless walk on the path that they have drawn for me, I also prayed that may The supremely merciful Madhav protect me all the time and make me strong. I also requested the divine couple to keep me in the association of devotees so that I can bask in the warmth of sadhu sanga.
In the evening my kind sister Radhalila prepared a small feast, spaghetti and fruit salad. The entire day was bright and clear, and time just flew by. In the evening after the aarti while we were relishing prasad, the lord of rains showed up and from nowhere it started raining. I was surprised & happy that Radhalila and Ananda were also coming to drop me to the airport , I was surprised as it was already 9pm. while we getting ready to leave, it stopped raining . The roads were quite clear and we reached the airport in no time.
At the airport Prabhu Baladeva lead heart melting kirtan with the combined sounds of accordion, african drum, mridanga, kartals, and devotees sincere chanting. We had nice kirtan for about 20mins and then with a heavy heart I bid farewell to the amazing devotees (prabhus- Baladeva, Upendra, Gopal, dharmendra , parminder, mac mac, bobby, robin. Vaishnavis - Radhalila , Anandaji >0< , parijata ) and checked in for my flight. Mummy had called up just before I boarded the plane.
The flight is not so full, currently the cabin lights are dim, most of the passengers are sleeping. I Am sitting quietly with tears in my eyes, as I write this note, I Am wondering what good activities I might have performed in order to get such loving friends and family. Krsna has been more than merciful on me, he has given me more than I deserve. I pray that someday I will be able to sincerely chant Gauranga's name and preach their glories....
Ps: thank u to my family in india, mummy, papa, mansi, pinky, deepak, punya and my friends Jayesh, priya, Gopi, Sahi for ur blessings, prayers, wishes thanks for always being their and thanks for being my wall :) I love you all. Thank u my Radha Madhav's family for ur devotion , love, care, affection, warmth, without which I wouldn't last this long. Miss and love u guys.
Last weekend were very heavy as I was constantly thinking of my imminent separation from my loving friends ( most of them have become a part of my tight bonded Radha Madhav's family). Last entire week the weather was bright and sunny, however on weekends the gods above shared my feelings and they were also crying, all through out the weekend we had heavy rains.
Monday was a beautiful sunny day and the temperature was quite pleasant. I dint go to office as I had to take care of some personal stuff and banking . Radha Madhav were wearing beautiful maroon colored dress, and as always were looking amazingly sweet and merciful, today I dint complain or fight with them, I told them that I am ready to go where ever they want to take and am ready to do whatever they want me to do, I prayed that may The queen of Vrindana Sri Radha guide me so that I can fearless walk on the path that they have drawn for me, I also prayed that may The supremely merciful Madhav protect me all the time and make me strong. I also requested the divine couple to keep me in the association of devotees so that I can bask in the warmth of sadhu sanga.
In the evening my kind sister Radhalila prepared a small feast, spaghetti and fruit salad. The entire day was bright and clear, and time just flew by. In the evening after the aarti while we were relishing prasad, the lord of rains showed up and from nowhere it started raining. I was surprised & happy that Radhalila and Ananda were also coming to drop me to the airport , I was surprised as it was already 9pm. while we getting ready to leave, it stopped raining . The roads were quite clear and we reached the airport in no time.
At the airport Prabhu Baladeva lead heart melting kirtan with the combined sounds of accordion, african drum, mridanga, kartals, and devotees sincere chanting. We had nice kirtan for about 20mins and then with a heavy heart I bid farewell to the amazing devotees (prabhus- Baladeva, Upendra, Gopal, dharmendra , parminder, mac mac, bobby, robin. Vaishnavis - Radhalila , Anandaji >0< , parijata ) and checked in for my flight. Mummy had called up just before I boarded the plane.
The flight is not so full, currently the cabin lights are dim, most of the passengers are sleeping. I Am sitting quietly with tears in my eyes, as I write this note, I Am wondering what good activities I might have performed in order to get such loving friends and family. Krsna has been more than merciful on me, he has given me more than I deserve. I pray that someday I will be able to sincerely chant Gauranga's name and preach their glories....
Ps: thank u to my family in india, mummy, papa, mansi, pinky, deepak, punya and my friends Jayesh, priya, Gopi, Sahi for ur blessings, prayers, wishes thanks for always being their and thanks for being my wall :) I love you all. Thank u my Radha Madhav's family for ur devotion , love, care, affection, warmth, without which I wouldn't last this long. Miss and love u guys.
Friday, May 22, 2009
The Story of the Wallet
The Story of the Wallet
Once an old man was traveling by train on a pilgrimage to Brindavan. At night, whilst he was asleep, his wallet fell from his pocket. A co-passenger found it the next morning and enquired as to whom the wallet belonged. The old man said it was his. A picture of Sri Krishna inside the wallet was proof that the wallet really belonged to him.
The old man then began to relate the story of the wallet. He soon had a group of eager listeners around him. Lifting up the purse for all to see, the old man said: This purse has a long history behind it. My father gave it to me years ago when I was a mere schoolboy. I kept my little pocket money in it and also a photograph of my parents.
Years passed. I grew up and began studying at university. Like every youth, I became conscious of my appearance. I replaced my parents' photograph with that of my own and I would look at it often. I had become my own admirer.
Then came marriage. Self-admiration gave way to the consciousness of a family. Out went my own picture and I replaced it with that of my wife's. During the day I would open the wallet many times and gaze at the picture. All tiredness vanished and I would resume my work with enthusiasm.
Then came the birth of my first child. What a joy I experienced when I became a father! I would eagerly rush home after work to play with my little baby. Needless to say, my wife's picture had already made way for the child's.
The old man paused. Wiping his tearful eyes, he looked around and said in a sad voice: Friends, my parents passed away long ago. My wife too died five years ago. My son- my only son- is now married. He is too busy with his career and his family. He has no time for me. I now stand on the brink of death. I do not know what awaits me in future. Everything I loved, everything I considered my own, has left me.
A picture of the Lord now occupies the place in my wallet. I know He will never leave me. I wish now that I had kept HIS picture with me right from the beginning (and HIS thought in my mind)! He alone is true; all others are just passing shadows….
Once an old man was traveling by train on a pilgrimage to Brindavan. At night, whilst he was asleep, his wallet fell from his pocket. A co-passenger found it the next morning and enquired as to whom the wallet belonged. The old man said it was his. A picture of Sri Krishna inside the wallet was proof that the wallet really belonged to him.
The old man then began to relate the story of the wallet. He soon had a group of eager listeners around him. Lifting up the purse for all to see, the old man said: This purse has a long history behind it. My father gave it to me years ago when I was a mere schoolboy. I kept my little pocket money in it and also a photograph of my parents.
Years passed. I grew up and began studying at university. Like every youth, I became conscious of my appearance. I replaced my parents' photograph with that of my own and I would look at it often. I had become my own admirer.
Then came marriage. Self-admiration gave way to the consciousness of a family. Out went my own picture and I replaced it with that of my wife's. During the day I would open the wallet many times and gaze at the picture. All tiredness vanished and I would resume my work with enthusiasm.
Then came the birth of my first child. What a joy I experienced when I became a father! I would eagerly rush home after work to play with my little baby. Needless to say, my wife's picture had already made way for the child's.
The old man paused. Wiping his tearful eyes, he looked around and said in a sad voice: Friends, my parents passed away long ago. My wife too died five years ago. My son- my only son- is now married. He is too busy with his career and his family. He has no time for me. I now stand on the brink of death. I do not know what awaits me in future. Everything I loved, everything I considered my own, has left me.
A picture of the Lord now occupies the place in my wallet. I know He will never leave me. I wish now that I had kept HIS picture with me right from the beginning (and HIS thought in my mind)! He alone is true; all others are just passing shadows….
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Simply marvelous
As I sit in my office later I come across a piece of paper with some very forceful and deliberate words expressed therein. They are from a speech made by the 26th President of the United states of America, Theodore Roosevelt in 1910 at the Sorbonne in Paris -
‘It is not the critic who counts ; not the man who points out how the strong man , or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood ; who strives valiantly ; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming ; but who does actually strive to do the deeds ; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions ; who spends himself in a worthy cause ; who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory or defeat.’
Simply marvelous. One does not need to elaborate any further.
‘It is not the critic who counts ; not the man who points out how the strong man , or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood ; who strives valiantly ; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming ; but who does actually strive to do the deeds ; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions ; who spends himself in a worthy cause ; who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory or defeat.’
Simply marvelous. One does not need to elaborate any further.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
I've Learned...
I've Learned...
That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
I've Learned...
That when you're in love, it shows.
I've Learned...
That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.
I've Learned...
That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
I've Learned...
That being kind is more important than being right.
I've Learned...
That you should never say no to a gift from a child.
I've Learned...
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.
I've Learned...
That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
I've Learned...
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
I've Learned...
That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
I've Learned...
That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've Learned...
That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.
I've Learned...
That money doesn't buy class.
I've Learned...
That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've Learned...
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
I've Learned...
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
I've Learned...
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've Learned...
That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
I've Learned...
That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I've Learned...
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
I've Learned...
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
I've Learned...
That there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.
I've Learned...
That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
I've Learned...
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.
I've Learned...
That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
I've Learned...
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
I've Learned...
That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
I've Learned...
That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
I've Learned...
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
I've Learned...
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.
I've Learned...
That it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life-threatening situation.
I've Learned...
That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.
That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
I've Learned...
That when you're in love, it shows.
I've Learned...
That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day.
I've Learned...
That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
I've Learned...
That being kind is more important than being right.
I've Learned...
That you should never say no to a gift from a child.
I've Learned...
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way.
I've Learned...
That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
I've Learned...
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
I've Learned...
That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
I've Learned...
That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've Learned...
That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for.
I've Learned...
That money doesn't buy class.
I've Learned...
That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
I've Learned...
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
I've Learned...
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
I've Learned...
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
I've Learned...
That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
I've Learned...
That love, not time, heals all wounds.
I've Learned...
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
I've Learned...
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
I've Learned...
That there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.
I've Learned...
That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
I've Learned...
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.
I've Learned...
That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
I've Learned...
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
I've Learned...
That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
I've Learned...
That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
I've Learned...
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it.
I've Learned...
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.
I've Learned...
That it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life-threatening situation.
I've Learned...
That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.
Belief
Belief
We all have something to learn from this girl.
As a drought continued for what seemed an eternity, a small community of farmers was in a quandary as to what to do. Rain was important to keep their crops healthy and sustain the townspeople' s way of life.
As the problem became more acute, a local pastor called a prayer meeting to ask for rain.
Many people arrived. The pastor greeted most of them as they filed in. As he walked to the front of the church to officially begin the meeting he noticed most people were chatting across the aisles and socializing with friends. When he reached the front his thoughts were on quieting the attendees and starting the meeting.
His eyes scanned the crowd as he asked for quiet. He noticed an eleven year-old girl sitting quietly in the front row. Her face was beaming with excitement. Next to her, poised and ready for use, was a bright red umbrella. The little girl's beauty and innocence made the pastor smile as he realized how much faith she possessed. No one else in the congregation had brought an umbrella.
All came to pray for rain, but the little girl had come expecting God to answer. It is important to believe in our actions to succeed in life.
We all have something to learn from this girl.
As a drought continued for what seemed an eternity, a small community of farmers was in a quandary as to what to do. Rain was important to keep their crops healthy and sustain the townspeople' s way of life.
As the problem became more acute, a local pastor called a prayer meeting to ask for rain.
Many people arrived. The pastor greeted most of them as they filed in. As he walked to the front of the church to officially begin the meeting he noticed most people were chatting across the aisles and socializing with friends. When he reached the front his thoughts were on quieting the attendees and starting the meeting.
His eyes scanned the crowd as he asked for quiet. He noticed an eleven year-old girl sitting quietly in the front row. Her face was beaming with excitement. Next to her, poised and ready for use, was a bright red umbrella. The little girl's beauty and innocence made the pastor smile as he realized how much faith she possessed. No one else in the congregation had brought an umbrella.
All came to pray for rain, but the little girl had come expecting God to answer. It is important to believe in our actions to succeed in life.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
My Journey Home - RNS - A CLASSIC
Ever since I read about Radhanatha Swami’s book My Journey Home, i had a craving a hunger to read his life story. Over the years I have met and lived with 100's of devotees; however Radhanatha swami has developed a special place in my heart. His lectures, seminars, kirtans .... everything about his is AMAZING.
When Baladeva was in India for Holi (Gaura Poornima) i had requested him to get me a copy of this book ... by hook or by crook. I was dumbstruck when Baladeva placed the book in my hands. Radhanatha swami is a charmer and a gifted story teller, and this is true for his book too.... The book is highly addictive; I would read it whenever and whenever i got time, on way to to office, while waiting for lunch or dinner, and during my reading time. One day i read for about 6 hrs straight, i started at 9 pm and dint realize when it was 3 am, maharaja binds the reader with an unbreakable spell. It is one of those books you just cannot put down.
Srila Radhanath Swami ki jay !
I remember my first meeting with Radhanatha swami, this was in 1996 Ratha yatra (it was ISKCON Juhu's last ratha yatra in Down town area), before ratha yatra started maharaj sang Jagantha astakam, the way he sang was mesmerizing. He had so much of love and devotion in him. Between 1996 and 2000 i met him on numerous occasions in Chowpaty, Juhu, Vrindavan and Mayapur each meeting was better than the last and each meeting itched deeper appreciation and love for Radhanatha swami. I will never forget the day when we met in Naski, we were all their for Kumbha mela, like a loving and caring father he embraced me tightly and enquired about my where about’s and what i was doing. I was highly touched by this display of warmth and affection. When i would visit Maharaj in his room in Chowpaty, he was always welcoming and friendly, his house / room in chowpaty is like a window to the spiritual world, all the walls are beautifully decorated with pictures and posters of the most prominent Krsna deities and vaishanava saints in our linage. It was always a treat to visit him in his rooms, the way he listened to every problem, the way he would guide, the way he would ensure that i was at ease... everything about him was so sweet and tender.
I thank Radhanatha Swami for sharing his life story with us… world needs more souls like him.
When Baladeva was in India for Holi (Gaura Poornima) i had requested him to get me a copy of this book ... by hook or by crook. I was dumbstruck when Baladeva placed the book in my hands. Radhanatha swami is a charmer and a gifted story teller, and this is true for his book too.... The book is highly addictive; I would read it whenever and whenever i got time, on way to to office, while waiting for lunch or dinner, and during my reading time. One day i read for about 6 hrs straight, i started at 9 pm and dint realize when it was 3 am, maharaja binds the reader with an unbreakable spell. It is one of those books you just cannot put down.
Srila Radhanath Swami ki jay !
I remember my first meeting with Radhanatha swami, this was in 1996 Ratha yatra (it was ISKCON Juhu's last ratha yatra in Down town area), before ratha yatra started maharaj sang Jagantha astakam, the way he sang was mesmerizing. He had so much of love and devotion in him. Between 1996 and 2000 i met him on numerous occasions in Chowpaty, Juhu, Vrindavan and Mayapur each meeting was better than the last and each meeting itched deeper appreciation and love for Radhanatha swami. I will never forget the day when we met in Naski, we were all their for Kumbha mela, like a loving and caring father he embraced me tightly and enquired about my where about’s and what i was doing. I was highly touched by this display of warmth and affection. When i would visit Maharaj in his room in Chowpaty, he was always welcoming and friendly, his house / room in chowpaty is like a window to the spiritual world, all the walls are beautifully decorated with pictures and posters of the most prominent Krsna deities and vaishanava saints in our linage. It was always a treat to visit him in his rooms, the way he listened to every problem, the way he would guide, the way he would ensure that i was at ease... everything about him was so sweet and tender.
I thank Radhanatha Swami for sharing his life story with us… world needs more souls like him.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Money has no memory.
Money has no memory. Experience has. You will never know what was the total cost of your education, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalization bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother's life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won't remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has.
Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn't know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn't enough and you still had reasons to smile. Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.
The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…
The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your sibling gave you…
The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage speech…
The first day in college…the first day at work…the first adventure…
And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…
No denying that anything that's material costs money; still the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience will never be.
So, what if it's economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents & grand parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn't cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap. Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.
Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don't want you to look back and realise you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.
Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have; or just a very insignificant bit.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
What Life Means Today
What Life Means Today
Earlier, life meant:
A winter evening, Four friends, Mild rain.., Four bikes.
Earlier, life meant:
100 bucks for petrol, Two rusty old bikes.., An open road.
Earlier, life meant:
Maggi noodles, drinking juice at 3.25 a.m.., Sharing food.. and clothes.
Earlier, life meant:
Last minute exam preparations, One night, One book.., 2 duffers.
Earlier, life meant:
Canteen food, bus rides, movie halls, cutting lectures :)
Today life means:
Old friends, Separate cities, Separate lives.,
And endless efforts to earn money & get peace.
Today what you are looking in life.., Is probably that you lost in your way here.
Remember old friends, old memories you shared, Reconnect, rejoice!
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Divorce :( :( :(
I am single, let alone divorced. But I happen to be one to those incredibly stubborn people who actually expects people to keep their promises and vows of marriage...silly me. I was born not to trust people and I guess I had a slip of one of my cerebral nerves or something. Don't get me wrong...my ex happens to be a sweet loving creatures on the face of the earth. But something wasn't clicking between the two of us. She's the type that needs someone in her life to complete her and give her a reason for being here. I am incredibly picky and difficult.
Today i was talking with one of my very good friend, and she mentioned that her marriage was in a trouble. GOSH!!! i was shocked to hear this, coz i know both of them well and they make a good couple. Last time when i visited home i also visited them and saw their sweet adorable baby... My mind was thinking faster than usual and i was having difficulty in expressing myself. After office i sat down and was thinking What makes a good spouse? true being a good provider might have been the end all to be all at one time, but what about love, communication, partnerships,friendship , emotional side of things??
In the order of importance to me:
- SENSE OF HUMOR - it's going to be a long 50+ years if you both don't have this, then its gonna be boring :(
- maturity - mature enough to have a realistic picture of marriage, day to day life, and to understand that people do not have the RIGHT to change their partner to suit them.
- commitment - without this everything else is worthless. To me this is the glue that holds everything else together.
- trust and honesty - for this to exist both people must feel SAFE being honest. Secure in the knowledge that their comments won't be ridiculed or used against them at a later date.
- friendship - if you aren't friends throughout your marriage what do you have to fall back on when times are hard or when children leave home?
- communication or someone who will attempt to communicate (communication skills are LEARNED) - again both parties MUST feel safe in communicating with the other.
- a basic kindness and consideration toward each other
- a willingness to work on problems - there will always be problems in life and if the two people can't work them out they are pretty well doomed.
- desire to create the best life for both - this doesn't mean the most financially secure life, but the best emotionally secure life possible for both.
I didn't list sex because I believe if you have a spouse who encompasses the above you'll have someone who is responsive, considerate, and desires to please. Everything else you can learn or be taught ;-)
I also didn't list being a good provider because I think it's a worthless consideration. I know one woman who wouldn't date anyone who didn't have a new car and an upper income job. She married him and now about 30 years later he lost that job after they were first married and she still works. Financial security is too nebulous.
Nurture the marriage you've got
Keep doing whatever it was that got you together. Develop new shared interests to supplant/replace old ones. Go on dates, even if you have to schedule them 6 months in advance. Try that new sex position. Whatever it takes. Flowers. Frequent oral sex. Doing the damn dishes - together, with some light banter thrown in. Do whatever it takes to keep marriage together... don't let it fall
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
Today i was talking with one of my very good friend, and she mentioned that her marriage was in a trouble. GOSH!!! i was shocked to hear this, coz i know both of them well and they make a good couple. Last time when i visited home i also visited them and saw their sweet adorable baby... My mind was thinking faster than usual and i was having difficulty in expressing myself. After office i sat down and was thinking What makes a good spouse? true being a good provider might have been the end all to be all at one time, but what about love, communication, partnerships,friendship , emotional side of things??
In the order of importance to me:
- SENSE OF HUMOR - it's going to be a long 50+ years if you both don't have this, then its gonna be boring :(
- maturity - mature enough to have a realistic picture of marriage, day to day life, and to understand that people do not have the RIGHT to change their partner to suit them.
- commitment - without this everything else is worthless. To me this is the glue that holds everything else together.
- trust and honesty - for this to exist both people must feel SAFE being honest. Secure in the knowledge that their comments won't be ridiculed or used against them at a later date.
- friendship - if you aren't friends throughout your marriage what do you have to fall back on when times are hard or when children leave home?
- communication or someone who will attempt to communicate (communication skills are LEARNED) - again both parties MUST feel safe in communicating with the other.
- a basic kindness and consideration toward each other
- a willingness to work on problems - there will always be problems in life and if the two people can't work them out they are pretty well doomed.
- desire to create the best life for both - this doesn't mean the most financially secure life, but the best emotionally secure life possible for both.
I didn't list sex because I believe if you have a spouse who encompasses the above you'll have someone who is responsive, considerate, and desires to please. Everything else you can learn or be taught ;-)
I also didn't list being a good provider because I think it's a worthless consideration. I know one woman who wouldn't date anyone who didn't have a new car and an upper income job. She married him and now about 30 years later he lost that job after they were first married and she still works. Financial security is too nebulous.
Nurture the marriage you've got
Keep doing whatever it was that got you together. Develop new shared interests to supplant/replace old ones. Go on dates, even if you have to schedule them 6 months in advance. Try that new sex position. Whatever it takes. Flowers. Frequent oral sex. Doing the damn dishes - together, with some light banter thrown in. Do whatever it takes to keep marriage together... don't let it fall
I will survive
as long as i know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive
Thursday, February 26, 2009
If life throws you lemons make lemonade!
I have often heard/seen of people wasting their life over impulsive decisions, only to regret them later on. Even history is replete with examples. If Bishma had not taken his historical oath a.k.a “Bhishmapratindya”, Mahabharat would have been different ball game all together. To make matters worse he declined every attempt made to reverse his destiny!
We all make mistakes or have to face awkward situations all through our life. It’s a given. However, it is up to us to get back up on the horse after being kicked on the teeth. It is indeed up to us for making best of whatever comes our way. There is no need for anyone to become a “Devdas” for his or her lost love. It is simply not worth it. Life is more precious than that to throw away for moments of impetuosity, obstinacy or even pride. Everyone deserves a second chance. Life is even willing to throw it at you; only if you are smart enough to realize that your defeat has brought you one step closer to success. This philosophy is what separates the winners from the losers.
So, if life throws you lemons make lemonade!
I will survive ...
Adversity may strike
For as long as I’m alive,
My spirit will not be broken,
I know, I will survive …
Behind the dreary rooms
People may connive,
I shall come out unscathed,
I know, I will survive …
In moments of grief,
My destiny may deprive,
I shall wipe away my tear,
I know, I will survive …
To test my endurance
Even providence may strive
I will come out stronger
I know, I will survive …
We all make mistakes or have to face awkward situations all through our life. It’s a given. However, it is up to us to get back up on the horse after being kicked on the teeth. It is indeed up to us for making best of whatever comes our way. There is no need for anyone to become a “Devdas” for his or her lost love. It is simply not worth it. Life is more precious than that to throw away for moments of impetuosity, obstinacy or even pride. Everyone deserves a second chance. Life is even willing to throw it at you; only if you are smart enough to realize that your defeat has brought you one step closer to success. This philosophy is what separates the winners from the losers.
So, if life throws you lemons make lemonade!
I will survive ...
Adversity may strike
For as long as I’m alive,
My spirit will not be broken,
I know, I will survive …
Behind the dreary rooms
People may connive,
I shall come out unscathed,
I know, I will survive …
In moments of grief,
My destiny may deprive,
I shall wipe away my tear,
I know, I will survive …
To test my endurance
Even providence may strive
I will come out stronger
I know, I will survive …
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Future....
Today i was talking with my good friend Upendra about our future and where we will be a year from now and where will be 10 years from now... We were making plans for building the Dream Temple for our beloved Radha Madhava, and after the discussion Upendra told me to show him my palm. Upendra is a gifted person, intelligent, well learned in philosophy, good singer, inspirational leader and good at palmistry.
I was a bit reluctant, but eventually gave in to his request, one of his reading took me by surprise. At first i thought that may be he was just joking, unfortunately he was not. He said things about my past which were highly personal and hence i had to believe what he is predicting about my future might also be true. Frankly speaking i cant see how it will come true, i cant see it coming true in this life time (at least). He said that i will take Sanyasa or i will become a leader of a spiritual society. I know my self pretty well and i know that i cant see my self in any of these roles, i have toooooo much of desires and dreams. Also i don't think that i have that much of purity in me. We laught about his readings.... but somewhere i could see it in his eyes that he was not joking. I also recall 6 months ago Ambrish prabhu (he is good with face and body reading and intuition) told me something on similar lines.
As it was time for noon arti, i went for darshan of the most beautiful Radha Madhava and as i was getting up, i realised that I am just a puppet in Krsna's hands, and he will make me dance the way he wants to. Its up to me, i can surrender to his plan and dance as he wants me to and be happy, OR i can resist and resist and still dance the way he wants me to and be unhappy. What is gonna happen, will happen, weather i like it not. So I humbly prayed to Radha Madhava and begged them to give the intelligence, strength and guidance, so that i can walk on the path that they have made for me. I want to walk on this path with dignity, pride and respect.
I know not what the future holds, but I know who holds the future.
I was a bit reluctant, but eventually gave in to his request, one of his reading took me by surprise. At first i thought that may be he was just joking, unfortunately he was not. He said things about my past which were highly personal and hence i had to believe what he is predicting about my future might also be true. Frankly speaking i cant see how it will come true, i cant see it coming true in this life time (at least). He said that i will take Sanyasa or i will become a leader of a spiritual society. I know my self pretty well and i know that i cant see my self in any of these roles, i have toooooo much of desires and dreams. Also i don't think that i have that much of purity in me. We laught about his readings.... but somewhere i could see it in his eyes that he was not joking. I also recall 6 months ago Ambrish prabhu (he is good with face and body reading and intuition) told me something on similar lines.
As it was time for noon arti, i went for darshan of the most beautiful Radha Madhava and as i was getting up, i realised that I am just a puppet in Krsna's hands, and he will make me dance the way he wants to. Its up to me, i can surrender to his plan and dance as he wants me to and be happy, OR i can resist and resist and still dance the way he wants me to and be unhappy. What is gonna happen, will happen, weather i like it not. So I humbly prayed to Radha Madhava and begged them to give the intelligence, strength and guidance, so that i can walk on the path that they have made for me. I want to walk on this path with dignity, pride and respect.
I know not what the future holds, but I know who holds the future.
Monday, February 23, 2009
The world is waiting for you.
The World Is Waiting For You
Do not be afraid to shine. The world needs what you have to give.
Open up the areas of your being; Expose them to yourself - to others.
You are valuable. You are unique.
You have much to give. Do not be afraid to give it.
As we risk ourselves, we grow. Each new experience is a risk.
We can try, and maybe fail; And, as a result, grow or hold back and stagnate.
You have the potential to be anything you want. You are free to chooose.
You are limited only by your fears. Let your dreams take over.
Fly with the eagles. Soar into life.
The world is waiting for you.
~ Fran Watson ~
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Excitement
Excitement
Thrills, Highs, Rushes, Somehow seeking ExcitementWhere does this energy keep coming from - I am totally spent
Crazy mind, Insatiable hunger or Reckless intent
I fail to understand what on proving I am hell bent
Broken through Doors, Windows and the proverbial Glass Ceilings
Is this just an Adrenaline Rush or a highway to vent my feelings?
Been through the Good, the Bad, the Ugly and the Arcane
Felt like an Angel, a Monster, Indifferent, Insane
Sights, Sounds, Touch and Smell
Been through Heaven, Earth, In between and Hell
Met God, Satan, People with every damn thing to sell
And yet I still lie here wondering where my excitement fell?
Saturday, February 7, 2009
Who is me???
I used to know me so well.
I used to be free and now
Who is me?
I used to know all the answers
But now what is going on here?
Nothing is clear,
Cold fear…
The frontier…I see the frontier…
I used to be free
But who chained my heart
And buried the key?
Safe side…shield…
Something in my blood boils…
My soul recoils.
I used to know me so well…
But now when I close my eyes
To see, there she comes…
This sad banshee…
I used to be free and now
Who is me?
I used to know all the answers
But now what is going on here?
Nothing is clear,
Cold fear…
The frontier…I see the frontier…
I used to be free
But who chained my heart
And buried the key?
Safe side…shield…
Something in my blood boils…
My soul recoils.
I used to know me so well…
But now when I close my eyes
To see, there she comes…
This sad banshee…
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Manila Rocks...
I am now in Manila and this place rocks... This place has become a second home, the love and warmth is great.
Work wise things are ok, still my stay and deployment here is a "?" mark. I am hoping that my company redeploys me here. The best will be to get a job in India, but thanks to the global economic crisis, all most all companies have freezed high level hiring.... Its wait and watch situation.
Personal level things are great, as i get to be with people who are dear and near to my heart.
Will write more latter....
Work wise things are ok, still my stay and deployment here is a "?" mark. I am hoping that my company redeploys me here. The best will be to get a job in India, but thanks to the global economic crisis, all most all companies have freezed high level hiring.... Its wait and watch situation.
Personal level things are great, as i get to be with people who are dear and near to my heart.
Will write more latter....
Monday, January 5, 2009
Water Puppet
Mua Roi Nuoc or Water Puppet is a unique art which has it origin in the delta of the Red river in the tenth century. The farmers in this region devised a form of entertainment using what natural medium they can find in their environment. In ancient times, the ponds and the rice paddies after harvest were the stage for these impromptu shows. This art form is unique to North Vietnam and only finds its way to the world stage in recent years.
A writer once said that "water puppetry is the soul of Vietnamese fields." How right he is! At a water puppet show, the audience lives in an atmosphere of a village festival; the audience watches boat races, buffalo fights, fox hunts and other rustic scenes amidst the beating of drums and gongs. The characters plough, plant rice seedlings, fish in a pond with a rod and line, scoop water with a bamboo basket hung from a tripod, etc. The show is interspersed with such items as a 'Dance by the Four Mythical Animals: Dragon, Unicorn, Tortoise, and Phoenix "and the 'Dance by the Eight Fairies', in which supernatural beings enjoy festivities alongside people of this world.
Modern, water puppetry is performed in a pool of water with the water surface being the stage. The puppeteers stand behind a screen and control the puppets using long bamboo rods and string mechanism hidden beneath the water surface. The puppets are carved out of wood and often weigh up to 15 kg. A traditional Vietnamese orchestra provides background music accompaniment. Singers of Cheo (a form of opera) with origin in north Vietnam sing songs which tell the story being acted out by the puppets.
Water Puppet Theatre. The show started with the musicians playing a Vietnamese folk song with traditional instrument. Through out the show I did not understand a word as it was in Vietnamese, therefore I couldn’t follow the story line.From visual perspective I think it’s fantastic. The puppets are very colourful. I found the puppeteers very skilful and clever of how they are able to move the puppets in different and accurate way.
The theme of the skits is rural and has a strong reference to Vietnamese folklore. It tells of day-to-day living in rural Vietnam and Vietnamese folk tales that are told by grandparents to their grandchildren. Stories of the harvest, of fishing and of festivals are highlighted. Legends and national history are also told through short skits. Many of the skits, especially those involving the tales of day-to-day living, often have a humorous twist.
I think water puppet is a lot harder to operate compare to land puppet. In the Water Puppet Show there are many complex moves. Imagine trying to control and manipulate the puppets of using a long pole against resistance of the water. Also the movements have to be in harmony with the music. The complex movements from Water Puppet show, the scene of the frog, boy fishing, King Le Loi Legend of the Restored Sword. These are my favourite scenes
Even though I didn’t understand a word, I enjoyed the show because it was different and I respect the puppeteer’s skill. Where else can you see puppets show performs on water. They say if you haven’t seen Water Puppet Theatre you haven’t come to Vietnam.
See pictures at:
http://picasaweb.google.com/kirtanislife/WaterPuppetShow#
Watch water puppet videos at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykakRBuETIM
A writer once said that "water puppetry is the soul of Vietnamese fields." How right he is! At a water puppet show, the audience lives in an atmosphere of a village festival; the audience watches boat races, buffalo fights, fox hunts and other rustic scenes amidst the beating of drums and gongs. The characters plough, plant rice seedlings, fish in a pond with a rod and line, scoop water with a bamboo basket hung from a tripod, etc. The show is interspersed with such items as a 'Dance by the Four Mythical Animals: Dragon, Unicorn, Tortoise, and Phoenix "and the 'Dance by the Eight Fairies', in which supernatural beings enjoy festivities alongside people of this world.
Modern, water puppetry is performed in a pool of water with the water surface being the stage. The puppeteers stand behind a screen and control the puppets using long bamboo rods and string mechanism hidden beneath the water surface. The puppets are carved out of wood and often weigh up to 15 kg. A traditional Vietnamese orchestra provides background music accompaniment. Singers of Cheo (a form of opera) with origin in north Vietnam sing songs which tell the story being acted out by the puppets.
Water Puppet Theatre. The show started with the musicians playing a Vietnamese folk song with traditional instrument. Through out the show I did not understand a word as it was in Vietnamese, therefore I couldn’t follow the story line.From visual perspective I think it’s fantastic. The puppets are very colourful. I found the puppeteers very skilful and clever of how they are able to move the puppets in different and accurate way.
The theme of the skits is rural and has a strong reference to Vietnamese folklore. It tells of day-to-day living in rural Vietnam and Vietnamese folk tales that are told by grandparents to their grandchildren. Stories of the harvest, of fishing and of festivals are highlighted. Legends and national history are also told through short skits. Many of the skits, especially those involving the tales of day-to-day living, often have a humorous twist.
I think water puppet is a lot harder to operate compare to land puppet. In the Water Puppet Show there are many complex moves. Imagine trying to control and manipulate the puppets of using a long pole against resistance of the water. Also the movements have to be in harmony with the music. The complex movements from Water Puppet show, the scene of the frog, boy fishing, King Le Loi Legend of the Restored Sword. These are my favourite scenes
Even though I didn’t understand a word, I enjoyed the show because it was different and I respect the puppeteer’s skill. Where else can you see puppets show performs on water. They say if you haven’t seen Water Puppet Theatre you haven’t come to Vietnam.
See pictures at:
http://picasaweb.google.com/kirtanislife/WaterPuppetShow#
Watch water puppet videos at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykakRBuETIM
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